who wants to pass as young?
it's the crazy ones with the daddy issues that go in a second without even knowing your name or status, nor caring to ask after either.
passing as young is a no go with them.
and highly overrated imho, if it's action you are still in the game after.
ymmv tho.
Re: Hawaii, does the whole "second family" thing happen there often? Out here in the Canary Islands a very good share of middle aged, and over, men keep "second families" after getting a teenager pregnant. Not uncommon for said teen to be related even. My neighbor has a child by his cousins daughter which they're "passing off" as her husband's kid. She's married to a blonde guy, and is blonde herself, kid's the spitting image of my neighbor... Dark hair, eyes, skin, same hook nose, same physical build, etc...
Pervy as it may seem, I often get asked why I don't do the same with a young girl when asked out with folks like these I mentioned. I get the feeling they think less of me, because I have the financial capacity to do so, but don't. It's a cultural thing here, a huge part of the machismo.
Crazy engrained into society. Some guy just kidnapped his two daughters after splitting with his wife on Tenerife when he felt he was about to lose custody. The older girls body has been found at sea, anchored to the bottom at 1 km depth in a gym bag. The younger girl and the dad are still missing, presumed also dead, but maybe he's taken her and is on the lamb as he certainly has the means to do so. Can you believe I overheard the local guys (these 2 family types) at the bar this Sunday saying the mother must have done something really bad to "deserve" that? Deserve? I mean what the actual fook man?
I digress... My question is, is the machismo present in Hawaii and the Hawaiian culture? I would think, the way it's portrayed outwardly at least, that the women play a huge fundamental and vitally important role. So, most likely not. But still curious about this.
It's clearly insecurities at root of the stuff locally here. The same kind of ignorance that breeds racism. Ugly underside of "humanity".