Fck man, that's really messed up.well she sent me a message me this morning
”I wasn’t bluffing , you broke up with me”
what a mind fook!
This is in no way your fault. She is being heavily manipulative by claiming you are responsible for her choices and actions. Not true.
I've got a thought experiment for that might help:
Imagine that night went differently. You worried about her harming herself and you acted differently.
K, so crisis averted for that night.
But what about the next night?
Can you handle hours and hours of manipulative BS?
And the next night?
Can you keep ignoring the dysfunction in order to spare her?
And the next night?
And the next?
And the next?
Etc.....
If that does not sound sustainable to you, congratulations.
You are sane and you made the right choice.