I think you should run away from any possible problem and just surf and have fun. It's much more "emotionally healthy"I never said it was up to me or that I wanted gov't to force people to live a certain way - I just want gov't to stop actively and aggressively enabling the really bad choices on the no-strings-attached basis.
The unhappy marriage situation you constantly accuse me of is hilarious. How many couples have you even met who not only have the long history together but who also work together? I'm literally within arm's reach of my wife most of the day during the week - how would that even be possible over so many years if we disliked each other in any way?
As for children growing up in 2-parent households or with at least 2 active parents that's not nothing. All my sons are in LTRs with good women. Those women were all raised in 2-parent households, too. These guys are choosing their partners based on their own priorities and then putting in the effort to make it work. No accidents or coincidences involved.
My middle son has been with his SO (they're not married so I guess that's not traditional) for 16 years. Just that relationship right there has already gone on longer than your longest adult relationship. That indicates to me that he's obviously been more successful at adult relationships than you. He surfs better than you, too.
Their daughter is 14 and in her first year in HS; she just got invited to her first Homecoming. Nobody on either side of her extended family has gone through a divorce in her lifetime so she's never seen an example of single parenting up close. The chances of her approaching her serious relationships with the expectation they'll be contentious and end up with her being the single parent are about as low as it gets.
She's genuinely "privileged" alright, and that advantage has zero to do with inherited wealth or unearned benefits being passed down from 150 years ago. She might fck up because that's always possible, but if she does it will be by her own hand and not because she didn't know any better. I fully expect her to assume personal responsibility for every choice she makes. I expect that of everybody.
Fuck your family, it's all about number 1!