BillyOcean said:
I used to be all about self determination as I willed myself from a semi shithole into semi high status, married dream girl and on track to make bank
Then I had two handicapped kids, my marriage went to sh!t and I had to regroup on the career front because it was incompitable with my family situation
At that point I realized I had done all of the “right” things and still sh!t happened
So I tend to be quite skeptical of up from the bootstraps theory
You need to account for luck
You should have just talked to me first. I would have burst your bubble.
Nature loves the bait and switch.
AKA, deceptive pattern mimicry.
The man's job, should he take it, is to provide.
I got a serious question: do you think your wife ever blames you for having handicapped kids?
I don't really think people are meant to be happy for very long.
And they can endure a lot of suffering.
So you are good to go.
And you got the erbb to vent to.