I totally get how it’s awkward and maybe even inconvenient to retrain ourselves to address people with the proper pronouns, especially with so many unclear grey areas with the non-binary thing. My mother who doesn’t have a hateful bone in her body and has always been a champion of LGBTQ rights can’t get it right with our family friend who was Brett and is now Aubrey. We’re constantly correcting her and you can tell it frustrates her but she knows that we’re rIght and doesn’t push back when we do, she’s mostly frustrated with herself. It gets especially confusing because our friend lives in Colorado (she actually frequents Club Q but wasn’t there for the shooting) and we haven’t seen her since she transitioned. So whenever she comes up in discussion or someone is telling a story that includes her from the past you naturally want to talk about he, him or Brett. But this push back of “It’s awkward and confusing and inconvenient so I should mock them in response” is just some really fucking twisted and selfish logic.