If you got the impression that PB/MB was unwelcoming don't go to the LJ reefs, south cliffs or the MB and OB jetties. If you do go, go alone, don't paddle straight to the peak, and don't be a kook. Some spots are worse than others as far as the vibe goes but if you can surf at an actual intermediate level (snaps, cutbacks, floaters, small tubes all front and backside) and display etiquette you'll get waves. And if you can go midday during the week crowds thin out quite a bit.