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Mental Health thread
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Thanks Kento.Sorry about your loss, npsp. It's both humbling and horrifying how fast things can change in seemingly an instant.
This is a warning for all of us middle agers. My friend was in very good shape, was an avid Mtn and dirt biker. He road several times a week. Ate well, moderate drinker and a non-smoker. He also had acid reflux issues for a long time and had been complaining about them lately. We think he may have ignored symptoms of cardiac problems thinking it was just his reflux flaring up.
It's scary because at our age and how we lived our lives, we all have constant aches and pains. Do not ignore them and if something seems odd, go see your Dr.!
So sorry for your friends family , yourself and everyone who is hurting from this tragedy NPSP.
Must say you are the kind of friend every man wants to have, major stepping up by you to be there for your friends family in that moment.
Make sure to take care of yourself over the next few weeks. As other said grief comes in waves.
Rest in power to your friend.
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Must say you are the kind of friend every man wants to have, major stepping up by you to be there for your friends family in that moment.
Make sure to take care of yourself over the next few weeks. As other said grief comes in waves.
Rest in power to your friend.
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Wait, sh!t, when does middle age start? dammit
and yeah man, grief is a strange thing. One day you think you are stoic, admirable even, in your fortitude, manning up and showing up for the other bereaved, taking care of business etc…the next day you’re crying like a baby for an hour in the shower. Hang in there pal, we’re all here for you
and yeah man, grief is a strange thing. One day you think you are stoic, admirable even, in your fortitude, manning up and showing up for the other bereaved, taking care of business etc…the next day you’re crying like a baby for an hour in the shower. Hang in there pal, we’re all here for you
One of the great gifts that surfing gives; is that you can cry out there in the ocean and no one is the wiser. The ocean washes it all away, literally and figuratively.
I appreciate all of the nice words! The erBB is good people.
We're taking care of ourselves and, unfortunately, have experience getting through traumatic events.
It will be a heavy evening as it is his daughter's 20th birthday today. We are having a small gathering for her and will try and surround her with love and security.
We're taking care of ourselves and, unfortunately, have experience getting through traumatic events.
It will be a heavy evening as it is his daughter's 20th birthday today. We are having a small gathering for her and will try and surround her with love and security.
she knew as soon as i texted her. hard convo but she took it well and offered me my job back anytime i want it.
2 week notice is in and off thursday - 5th anyways, lol. mental health is soaring right now.
Average age of death in the USA 77-78 for white males in the USA.
How many stages of life are there?
Please tell me large numbers of obese, heavy drinking and poorly eating white males skew that number heavily? No pun intended.
Because, when my dentist saw me for the first time after the Covid lockdowns, and I had lost 60 pounds, first thing he said to me was “you’re gonna live a lot longer” which I of course immediately took to mean like at least 90, maybe a decline as I near 100
im not particularly afraid of death in the grandiose sense, I think we just blink off, like we blinked on when we gained first consciousness. But, I enjoy life too much to be excited about dying at 78, not after all the work and food discipline and exercise and sobriety and mental health and freaking yoga for krishnas sake. I mean, I get out there and carpe diem, you guys all know that about me by now, but 78 seems young for the healthy folks in generation X
Because, when my dentist saw me for the first time after the Covid lockdowns, and I had lost 60 pounds, first thing he said to me was “you’re gonna live a lot longer” which I of course immediately took to mean like at least 90, maybe a decline as I near 100
im not particularly afraid of death in the grandiose sense, I think we just blink off, like we blinked on when we gained first consciousness. But, I enjoy life too much to be excited about dying at 78, not after all the work and food discipline and exercise and sobriety and mental health and freaking yoga for krishnas sake. I mean, I get out there and carpe diem, you guys all know that about me by now, but 78 seems young for the healthy folks in generation X
50 is the new 30. I'm 55 and consider myself middle aged. I still beat my son and his friends to the top of the hill at Blacks so I have that going for me.
A lot of it is genetics and luck. Have a lot of 90-100 year olds in my family tree
Some of them were in no way shape or form healthy
Just do your best to make healthy choices and as npsp said above don’t ignore sh!t.
Ask your doctor for tests if something feels off
Some of them were in no way shape or form healthy
Just do your best to make healthy choices and as npsp said above don’t ignore sh!t.
Ask your doctor for tests if something feels off
THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT! I’m 42 and with my recent health strides, and several years without booze, I feel better than I did in my 20s. Granted I was a broke, fat, lazy drunk in a quarter life crisis, but I literally feel as athletic as I did in high school. And I'm the same weight now too. In fact I weigh less than I did senior year by 10 pounds….I weigh what I weighed as a sophomore
Love paddling and surfing circles around guys Half my age on the same sized boards
but I’m also humbled by the OTHER 20-something guys who surf like mid caliber pros, not to mention those dudes who have 10-20 years on me and can keep up with a competitive lineup
Love paddling and surfing circles around guys Half my age on the same sized boards
but I’m also humbled by the OTHER 20-something guys who surf like mid caliber pros, not to mention those dudes who have 10-20 years on me and can keep up with a competitive lineup
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Deepest condolences to you and to the family of your friend. Truly tragic.
All the stupid chit you do to your body as a youth comes back to haunt you in later years.
Nothing is in vain.
Perhaps, but I cleaned up pretty early. I suppose I smoked heavily and long enough that it might come back to haunt me. I plugged the jug before cirrhosis or any other fun by product of heavy daily drinking kicked in. Supposedly the liver is good at healing itself given time and clean living
All the stupid chit you do to your body as a youth comes back to haunt you in later years.
Nothing is in vain.
Again this all depends. great grandma was 102 when she passed and she drank and smoked a ton. Had a pretty high quality of life until her final years.
All the stupid chit you do to your body as a youth comes back to haunt you in later years.
Nothing is in vain.
Friends dad he never smoked and barely drank. No drugs , passed away in his office at 65.
You just never know so live your life to the fullest.
Carpe diem
I have some centenarians on my moms side (quakers are known for living a long time, but that was probably because of their clean and sober lifestyle habits in an era when people usually lived like pigs and died by 30)
. Dads side, heart issues run in the family, but some long lives too. even with my cholesterol being just fine and all that, I’ll always keep an eye on the ticker.
its all a genetic crap shoot. I mean, I feel better in mind body and spirit when im living lean and clean and green, but I don’t pretend that all that clean livin guarantees me anything but feeling good that day and that day alone. I HOPE it pays off with a long, fun, healthy and interesting life that ends peacefully around 120 or so, but, like I said, no guarantees
I have some centenarians on my moms side (quakers are known for living a long time, but that was probably because of their clean and sober lifestyle habits in an era when people usually lived like pigs and died by 30)
. Dads side, heart issues run in the family, but some long lives too. even with my cholesterol being just fine and all that, I’ll always keep an eye on the ticker.
its all a genetic crap shoot. I mean, I feel better in mind body and spirit when im living lean and clean and green, but I don’t pretend that all that clean livin guarantees me anything but feeling good that day and that day alone. I HOPE it pays off with a long, fun, healthy and interesting life that ends peacefully around 120 or so, but, like I said, no guarantees
Well, if you're fit, 50 is the new 35, and I'm only 42. I'm still in young adulthood. Hell apparently a lot of shrinks say one's emotional development stops as soon as you pick up an addiction, and I was all over the sauce at a ripe young age. So really, between my dramatic health improvements in the last several years, and my stunted emotional growth, I'm like 22 years old.