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Occasionally I get an autistic student. The last one used to get very angry when he was frustrated. Trying to stab me with his pencil was his go-to move. My hands were his main target until I used some empathy to tell when he was reaching his frustration limit. That's when I could prepare for his jab at my hand. Took me a while but got good at it. That pissed him off more, so he changed his target to my eyes. Luckily I was wearing glasses the first time he did it.Gotcha, do You work w autistic kids?
My perspective is - like you are saying - they are extraordinarily overwhelmed. from the outside it looks like their feelings and sensory input must feel like a fire hose full throttle, point blank at them, so they’re always in survival mode. That has to be so exhausting and taxing, so something like compassion gets out to the bottom of the list.
The very high functioning spectrum folks I know - some are very successful and live pretty “normal” lives even though they operate a lil differently. I’ve known kids that were thought to have had some type of “attention deficit disorder“ put on meds for that - only making things worse. Then getting a proper eval and found to be on the spectrum and then more or less thriving w some modifications at school, parents being supportive in crucial ways and the kids working “smart“ and fckn hard.
Better memorize those breakfast cerealsLOW EMPATH!
You should have bought him an old-school compassOccasionally I get an autistic student. The last one used to get very angry when he was frustrated. Trying to stab me with his pencil was his go-to move. My hands were his main target until I used some empathy to tell when he was reaching his frustration limit. That's when I could prepare for his jab at my hand. Took me a while but got good at it. That pissed him off more, so he changed his target to my eyes. Luckily I was wearing glasses the first time he did it.
I agree, if they do experience the need to act with compassion it is not near the top of the list.
I guess you guys should start forming a line but...I feel for you BroAre you sure he's autistic?
I mean, you are kind of stab-able...
Yes, the following pretty much confirms that. All maladaptive emotional responses, it should be noted, are best regulated with reason and not other emotion nonsense.I'm ultra cynical.
Have you taken a look at your teammates here?
The "no tolerance for intolerance" crowd?
In my experience it is empathy that makes people angry - they begin to bear the weight of the world on their shoulders and see injustice everywhere.
That's exhausting.
I can't imagine living like that.
So now we are talking about a mental disorder?"Hyper-empathy syndrome
Hyper-empathy syndrome occurs when you are too in tune with other people’s emotions and mirror them to the same intensity. In other words, you care too much. People with hyper-empathy may find it hard to regulate their emotions and may have a tendency to pick up on negative feelings.
The symptoms of hyper-empathy include:
People with hyper-empathy are often labelled as overly sensitive, and, to a certain extent, being more in tune with people’s emotions can help you build meaningful connections. However, left unmanaged, hyper-empathy can be harmful to your mental health because it can make you pursue co-dependent relationships, have poor personal boundaries, and neglect your own needs.
- You have strong emotional reactions when other people experience negative feelings. Sometimes, these reactions are
- intense even if you’re only looking at a photo or a movie and may include physical symptoms (stomach ache, nausea).
- You still feel an emotional response to another person’s pain a few days after it happened.
- You feel overwhelmed after talking to people about their problems because it’s as if they’re happening to you.
- You’re so focused on other people’s problems you neglect taking care of yourself.
- You find it hard to say no to people because you feel sorry for them.
Hyper-empathy can also be a symptom of borderline personality disorder (BPD), which is why it’s important to talk about it with a professional and find a healthy way of regulating your emotions."
NO. ALL EMDPATHY BAD.View attachment 135470
This doesn't surprise me in the least....I mean, who among us hasn't had to deal with that one friend/acquaintance that has become such an energy suck you more or less have to remove them from your life (either partially or completely). Looking at you, junkie friend, who stole from everyone who ever loved you.
Too much of anything is not a good thing.
Narcissism is cancer.NO. ALL EMDPATHY BAD.
This. There's an obvious balance between hyper-empathy syndrome and sociopathy.View attachment 135470
This doesn't surprise me in the least....I mean, who among us hasn't had to deal with that one friend/acquaintance that has become such an energy suck you more or less have to remove them from your life (either partially or completely). Looking at you, junkie friend, who stole from everyone who ever loved you, and alcoholic friends that thrashed their marriage/job/life and our friendship.
Too much of anything is not a good thing.
I haven't watched the video but that sounds like borderline disorder.As Autoprax is fond of saying: The poison is the dose. That video doesn't say empathy is bad. It says is can be bad, unregulated.
If you would like to argue with the mental health professionals responsible for that quote, feel free.So now we are talking about a mental disorder?
What happened to the run of the mill, regular empathy?
I'm not arguing that borderline disorder is not a thing.If you would like to argue with the mental health professionals responsible for that quote, feel free.
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