I do not work well with emotional blackmailing. Just doesn't seem to work on me for some reason. And saying something like that is 100% that as far as I'm concerned. Guess I'm more the type to just do it, and not talk about it. Never understood the whole leaving notes either. WTF?
As far as my wife, she is seeing a psychologist, 2 as a matter of fact. Also been on sleeping pills for as long as I can remember, one every night. Was on antidepressants, decided on her own to stop those, not sure why. Probably the whole, 'I feel better now, so I don't need those anymore' mistake.
She recently had gastric surgery (bariatric sp?) shortly before her mother passed away, and one thing the pre-surgery blood work showed was she doesn't register on any of the happiness hormones, serotonin, melatonin, adrenalin, etc... Clearly there's a chemical inbalance going on with her, but she doesn't want to do anything to change that... except take more pills... which doesn't seem to be helping much.
I am there for her as much as possible, but I also have an 88 yo dependent on me, it's hard to spread out between them both as they're both a 24/7 project. The thing is, my mother cannot fend for herself, so I have to care for her, no other choice.
Classic Rock and a Hard Place type situation.
I pray that she finds happiness, because after 20+ years of marriage I have learned the hard way, noone can make anyone happy but one's self.
All I can do, is keep taking care of her as much as the house, the garden, the animals and my mother allow.
Hopeful for brighter days ahead. Praying for them even.
But at the same time, preparing for the worst; just in case.
I too have my own mental issues, don't we all, but clearly have ZERO time to address any of them.
Sorry for dumping on you guys, but to be perfectly honest... you are more "here" for me than any of my blood family.
And for that, I thank you profusely!
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