this is how i feel about my decision to buy my kids smart phonesYeah I fucked up buying it in the first place
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this is how i feel about my decision to buy my kids smart phonesYeah I fucked up buying it in the first place
this is actually the best way of all. kudos to you, dadsame here. i made both my kids work, save money, buy components, and build their own PC gaming rigs. still ended up in the never-ending battle over screen time, but delayed it a bit, got some yardwork out of 'em, and motivated them to do some learning/building along the way
No Freak outs?and with screen time, i don't ask twice anymore - i can control his pc and his internet access remotely - i ask once (or he hits his limit for the day). after that, i just kick him off and shut him down, no arguments.
The kids loose their sh!t when I tell them to stay off their phones in class.Yeah I fucked up buying it in the first place. I got it just for Flight Simulator and then he found out all the other games and just became locked in and tantrum if you tried to pull him off it. He began negotiating his behavior for games he wanted. Really though the transformation in his behavior was fucked up. He is doing much better now.
not at this point - he knows better. he has a clock on his phone, he can tell time, he knows his time limits (and they are still somewhat excessive, imho - he gets 2 hours, every other day) and he knows our expectations. and he knows that any inappropriate reaction could easily impact his ability to get back on. he's 13 - he's learned that won't get him anywhere.No Freak outs?
The electronics are no doubt a major component and probably the most difficult to overcome.The reality of parenting these days:
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we don't worry about any of that and tbh, i don't know any parents in my neighborhood who actually fit that description - do you? my guy made the school football team this year (wide receiver/middle linebacker) and most of his friends did too .The electronics are no doubt a major component and probably the most difficult to overcome.
However you also have the helicopter parenting that preceded it. Parents scared of their kids being abducted, so gone are the days of playing outside until the streetlights came on. Can’t play dodgeball, tackle football or with toy guns because that encourages violence, bullying and school shootings. Electronics were both the missing link and the final nail.
These threats are all way overblown. Lenore Skenazy talks all about this. Ironically, the electronics are a real threat. Tech execs don’t let their kids have them.The electronics are no doubt a major component and probably the most difficult to overcome.
However you also have the helicopter parenting that preceded it. Parents scared of their kids being abducted, so gone are the days of playing outside until the streetlights came on. Can’t play dodgeball, tackle football or with toy guns because that encourages violence, bullying and school shootings. Electronics were both the missing link and the final nail.
They know they are addiction machines.These threats are all way overblown. Lenore Skenazy talks all about this. Ironically, the electronics are a real threat. Tech execs don’t let their kids have them.
More than once I snuck up behind a kid on their phone and looked over their shoulder to read what they were doing. Embarrasses the hell out of them, even when what they were doing was totally innocuous.The kids loose their sh!t when I tell them to stay off their phones in class.
Now I say, "Go outside and use your phone."
I walk around and 95% of the people are looking down at their phones.
It's gross.
Breaking the Xbox?This is some seriously sick, abusive behavior
Holy sh!t
Spank them with the xboxifall what is your stance on spanking?